1. We don't hold resentment.

2. We can laugh at ourselves when we're being stupid.

3. We get back on the horse quickly when we push each other off.

4. We prioritize each other and, if we can, drop everything to respond to each other's needs right away.

5. We look up to each other with admiration and awe.

6. We are each other's best friend and confidant.

7. We know when to step back and respect each other's autonomy and free will.

8. We frequently think about and are eager for our next sexual connection.

9. We control time; time doesn't control us.

10. We can't stay mad at each other.

21. We understand and know ourselves to be in service to love.

22. We take care of ourselves to stay attractive for each other.

23. We are confident in expressing our sexual polarity as man and woman.

24. We take responsibility for our feelings.

25. We understand sacrifices as opportunities.

26. We have lots of pet names for each other.

27. We're never bored when we're together.

28. We say what we feel and feel what we say.

29. We don't let messes get in the way to feel close to each other.

30. We miss each other when we're not together.

11. We never question our love for each other.

12. We have fun playing with our romance archetypes.

13. We forgive easily.

14. We can't get our hands off each other.

15. We lavish each other with appreciation.

16. We feel seen, wanted and understood.

17. We leave phones out of the bedroom and when spending time together.

18. We travel at the same speed of light on a joint mission toward a shared dream.

19. We own our mistakes.

20. We accept conflict and struggle as opportunities to grow closer together.

Assign one point to each statement that feels true to you (keep track of the items you checked):

0-10 points: Foundation

You know you love each other and want to be together for the rest of your lives. But the vibrancy you have felt in the beginning has lost its spark. Your life together is dominated by transactional exchanges and routine, or repeatedly consumed by discord about the same old grievances. You don't want to settle for either. You are ready, eager and earnest to build a strong romantic foundation as Renaissance Lovers, feeling seen, wanted and understood.

11-20 points: Structure

You enjoy being together and want to make the most out of every day. You already have poured a great deal of love, time and energy into your romantic connection and are ready to supercharge your chemistry as Magnetic Lovers. At this level, you are more attuned to each other's needs, and your exchanges are more satisfying, unencumbered by the drama of self-assertion.

21-30 points: Expansion

You are an exceptional couple. You know at your core that sexual love is the underlying power of creation, transcending fear and dispelling limiting beliefs. You have all it takes to manifest the dream of Legendary Lovers. You respond to each other's needs intuitively and with joy in service to the mystery that created both of you.

What’s our level?